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41 / M / Straight / Single

Berkeley, CA

My Details

Last Online
Feb 7
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)

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My self-summary
*Age Disclaimer* After careful consideration, I changed the age listed in my profile. (I was getting far too many replies from women out of my range.-Some with grandchildren-so I dropped it to skew the algorithm and i hopes of meeting someone below my age by a few years.

Here's my real age: I turend 46 in August
So there's that. Read on if you like.

Thanks for getting me on that, Homes.

Here's a key thing about me: anyone under the age of ten or over the age of seventy gets my unconditional love; those in between have to I just went for a bike ride in my 'hood. There's an old lady I see every day, we wave and say hello. She gives me a big smile and I smile back. On a crap day that's a miracle, but on a good day It makes life even better.

And yeah, I'm a handful: an intrepid traveller, a polyglot, a creative-yet-left-brained individual. A man of strong opinions, but ultimately teachable. Outgoing and socially adept, I can integrate myself into most situations with dexterity and ease. I'm constantly percolating with ideas and words but I downshift into quiet reflection.

What attracts me to a woman? Of course, the physical; what keeps me engaged is the mental, and what is keeps me around is the mystery and awe.

I like a woman who generates laughter and bilateral conversation. I don't get on with complainers, gossips, and negative Nancies. Teach me something. Groundedness, curiosity, humility and an abiding sense of compassion are appreciated.

I like it all from wide-open spaces to concrete canyons: the beach and warm sunlight, city walks, coffee, books, ideas and road trips, staying in to cook.
I’m really good at
Telling story, connecting with people, cooking, languages, yoga, surfing,
The first things people usually notice about me
The primer-colored van I drive, or the cardboard duct-taped over its windows. That I live with my parents and how great Mom dresses me. My small, clammy hands that feel like sad oatmeal in your palms as we walk through Toys-Are-Us* (ideal first date)
As for what people really notice...that depends on them.

*Not to be a DB, but please don't bother asking me if I'm serious about this imagery. We probably wouldn't click.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Hawker stalls in Singapore...Choripan and a cold bottle of Quilmes at that little porqueria asador next to Estacion Once in Buenos Aires; Asado Mixto at El Obrador, Birria in Pico-Union, bootleg Mandu joints deep in K-Town, etc.

Books: The Godfather, The Odyssey, Moby Dick, Hucklebe Finn, Blood Meriidian,The Master and Margarita, A Confederacy of Dunces, The Unusual Life of Tristan Smith, Ham on Rye, Paul Bowles, Anything by: Junot Diaz, Nathaniel Philbrick, Whitman, Baudelaire, Emerson, Neruda, Rilke, Rumi, e.e. Cummings, Ogden Nash.

Movies by: Coen Brothers, Wes Anderson, Jean-Pierre Jeunet,
David Lynch, Stanley Kubrick, Hitchcock, Kurasawa, Tarantino, Polanski, Nuevo Latino, Korean Horror/Paranormal. Anything, almost anything, just keep brining it. I'm currently digging

Radio/Podcasts/Web: I'm a full-fledged member of Ira's Army.
The Moth, TAL, Car Talk, Wait-Wait, Morneing Becomes Eclectic, Your Mighty KAL-X, T.E.D., etc., all the Prius-driving urbanist liberal fare

Tunes? let it rock and let it be loud, let it be classical and let it be soothing. let it be everything between, and let it be what suits the moment.
The six things I could never do without
My pesto sauce every sunday
Beaches/waves/ surfing
People I love
kindness exchanged between strangers
A fast bicycle
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Saying "Rats!" instead of "Fuck!". That Skype is giving and twitter is taking. Blurting out stuff. Putting the greater good ahead of my wants. Balancing the irreverent and the serious. How a giant heart and epic brain can get stymied by a big mouth.
The next country, it's people, and their food. Why I don't have a dog. What love feels like and what to make for dinner and wouldn't it be nice to have a woman around to cook for.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out talking with great people. at home watching flix or gettin' my Skype on. Hello Auckland, Warsaw and Buenos Aires.
Most anything but filling out questions posed by a dating site 'bot
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I sing background vocals for Hall and Oates when they're on tour in my car.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–46
  • Located anywhere
You should message me if
you're intelligent, funny, easy-going, humble, compassionate, trusting and grounded. If you don't need to be chased, but courted instead, If you're an Artist, Designer, Writer, Filmmaker, Chef, Gardener, or a Ninja. If you can teach me something you got me, and if you smile easily then bring it. And bring your dog.

My DQ List (let's all fess up and own that we have 'em)

If you need to ask if the shoplifting/living-with-my-folks thing is real...
If you smoke, or drink a lot...
If you prefer Vegas to Vientiane...

...then we're prolly not going to click. Just sayin'